Is where a couples unite in marriage.
Is where we celebrate the love between two people.
Is where we rejoice to the meaning of the word;
Everyone have a different idea to the word marriage. To some, it will be the happiest day of their life because it represents a life with the one you love. To others, it might just be a dream. We, as humans, often long for a companion to have, to be there, to love through your lifetime. Whether you want to admit it or not, that’s a fact that everyone will eventually long for a partner; someone to spend their remaining life with.
Sad to say, in modern days, more of us are facing disappointment and heartbreaks than our well deserved happy endings. It usually makes us wonder, what do we have to do to meet the right one. Is there such a thing as the right one?
A Soulmate. Or the right one if you may say. I do believe that it’s out there for everyone. Call me stupid or a fool but yes I’m forever a romantic. I grew up believing that if I try hard enough I might actually be happy. As I grew up, I find it harder and harder because everything I do, everywhere I look, I don’t really feel that I’m happy. Somehow, something is missing in me and I struggled to find an answer; an answer to my happiness.
If you know me, you would have known my story. My life full of rejections and heartbreaks; lies and cheating; broken and down. At last I realized, why do I try so hard. Why am I trying and going all out to find someone that will eventually break me again. This is usually the stage where people start to build up walls and I’m no exception. I’m not proud of my past but I don’t think back and regret the things I should have done.
I mean… Everything happens for a reason right?
But as you know, through all of my struggles, I found the one I call my soulmate. All that I learnt from my past, I don’t abandon them. I carry them and move forward. All that I should have done from my past, I don’t abandon them. I carry them and move forward. Every failure that you experienced that lead you to this current point, makes you a better person for the next person. And who knows… maybe he/she is the one. This brings me back to what I would always say:
Always love yourself more. Because if you can’t even choose to love yourself, nobody else will.
Yes. I used the word choose. I don’t care if you’re fat, ugly, short, tall or there are certain areas you don’t like about yourself. It’s always a choice and you chose to hate that aspect of you. Yes I know I can never truly understand and you might think I’m still a normal looking person, what do I really know about all of this. But little do you know, I also suffered from low self esteem before. I never loved myself. I never chose to love me for me. And I don’t care what you think, but I know that everyone is fighting their own struggles; their own fight. I’m not in any place to judge. And you are not in any place to judge me too.
What I want to say here is, you can’t expect people to love you if you first don’t love yourself. You can’t change anything if you let things remain status quo. If you don’t take that first crucial step, you will forever stay on the same spot while many others move their feet.
Empower yourself. Give yourself more credit than you ever deserve. Find the love that you think you deserve. I think we owe ourselves that much at least. Not everyone that you met will be good or nice or kind, but they will eventually step into your life. And promise me this. When they step in,
Always be the perfect self that you are. Not some other person. Because if he/she is the right one, they will embrace every part of you; even those that you once hate about yourself.
That’s my perfect kind of love.